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When you've got to move...
Change
is hard. We all get into a rhythm in life, and
disruption can throw us off balance and increase our
stress. The change of moving can be particularly
difficult because it touches so many aspects of our
lives. While moving by itself can be tough, there are
circumstances which make it even more difficult. For
example, seniors and young children often have a
challenging time adjusting to relocation. Those involved
in an involuntary move may struggle more as well,
whether the move is the result of a change or loss of
work, a restructuring of the family unit, or a change in
physical abilities that requires a different living
situation. Relocation is stressful because it can feel
not only like a change in living location but also like
an upheaval of all aspects of life. Fortunately, there
are some things that can be done to help decrease the
stress of moving.
Involve everyone in the moving process-
Well-meaning family members or parents may think that
they are helping by stepping in and taking care of all
the move details, but in fact they are really increasing
the stress for those involved. Seniors, children or
those being forced to move are often already struggling
with the feeling that they don’t have control over the
situation. Things are going to change, and they don’t
have a say in the matter. The solution is to encourage
them to be involved, even if it is in a small way.
Include aging parents in planning the move, choosing the
apartment or deciding how to layout the new space. Let
children help gather toys to be packed, research their
new town, and unpack their things when they arrive at
the new home.
Strive to keep as many things consistent as possible-
A move turns everyday life upside down and makes
schedules hard to maintain. Try to restore the daily
routine as soon as possible even if this means certain
activities have to be deferred until everyone has
adjusted to the move. Take time before introducing the
local cuisine. Prepare regular meals so they can find
comfort in the familiar.
Recreate familiar space-Set up the new space
to resemble the old space as much as possible. Buying
new furniture or decor to match the new house may be a
good idea, but wait until all have had time to adjust to
the change in location and space. The feel of a familiar
blanket or the sight of a well-known picture arrangement
on the wall will provide comfort and limit the amount of
change that is happening at one time.
Moving
can be overwhelming, but limiting the amount of change
experienced and allowing participants to be involved in
the process will help reduce relocation stress.
© November 2011 Beth Giles |
